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Alright, let’s talk about cheating. Yeah, I said it. Cheating. It’s that toxic little thing that’s been glamorized, excused, and honestly just plain normalised. But let’s be real, it’s not normal, and I’m here to spill some tea on why it’s not a reflection of you, it’s all about them.

So, first things first, let’s address the elephant in the room: “Why do people cheat?” Is it because you weren’t “good enough?” Spoiler alert: No, babe. It’s not about you at all. Cheating, in most cases, comes from insecurity, not some magical flaw in your personality or body. It’s deeper than just “I’m not happy,” or “Everyone does it,” or “It’s a phase.” If you’ve heard any of those excuses, it’s time to call BS.

Cheating Comes From Insecurity, Not You Being “Not Enough”

Cheating is about one person’s internal mess, not your lack of perfection. And let me be crystal clear: no one’s perfect, not even Beyoncé. So, don’t fall into the trap of thinking, “If I just looked this way or acted that way, they wouldn’t have done it.” Stop right there.

Cheating often happens because someone’s insecure. Maybe they don’t feel worthy of the love they’re getting, or maybe their self-esteem is so low they don’t even know how to properly receive love in the first place. So, they cheat. Why? Because it fills an empty hole. It’s a quick ego boost, a “look at me” moment. It’s not a reflection of your worth, it’s a cry for help in their messed-up world.

Now, sometimes, let’s be real, there’s a more sinister reason behind it. They could just be a narcissist. Yeah, I said it. Some people cheat because they love the control, the attention, and the power. If this sounds like your ex or someone you’re currently dating, RUN. That’s the kind of toxic, manipulative behavior that needs to be called out, not coddled.

But Why Do People Normalise It?

Oh, the classic, “Everyone does it, it’s just a phase,” excuse. No. Just…no. Not everyone cheats, and if you’ve been around people who cheat and act like it’s just part of the game, take a good look at their lives. If you’re surrounding yourself with people who think cheating is okay, it’s time to reconsider your circle.

We need to stop normalising cheating, especially if it’s being thrown around like it’s some casual thing. It’s not. It’s not “just a mistake,” it’s a behavior that speaks volumes about a person’s values, or lack thereof. A “slip-up” doesn’t involve sneaky texts, late-night rendezvous, or leaving someone emotionally broken. Cheating is a choice, not an accident.

How to Deal if You’re the One Cheating: Own It, Fix It, or Bounce

Let’s get real for a second: if you’ve cheated, take a step back and look at yourself. Yeah, I’m talking to you. This is your moment to take accountability. Why did you do it? Was it really because your partner wasn’t enough, or did you just not have the emotional maturity to handle the relationship? Maybe you thought you could juggle two people? Or maybe you felt so insecure that you thought you needed the validation elsewhere?

Whatever the reason, it’s time to break it down. If you’re in this situation, do the grown-up thing: talk about it. Apologize, but more importantly, fix yourself. Work on the deeper issues that led you to cheat. But let’s be clear, if you’re not ready to heal or understand your own messed-up insecurities, you need to step out of that relationship. Playing both sides is not the move.

How to Deal if Someone’s Cheating on You: Know Your Worth and Let Go

Now, if someone’s cheating on you? Honey, you need to let them go. Cheating is a choice, and it’s a choice that’s completely on them. Do not sit there and blame yourself, because it’s not about you being “too much” or “too little” of anything. It’s about their need for attention, control, or an ego boost. Don’t let them make you feel like you’re not enough because, guess what? You are.

If they’re cheating, it’s a red flag that they don’t have the maturity, respect, or emotional capacity to be with you. The hardest part is walking away, but trust me, you’ll be better for it. You’ll find someone who will love you for all the right reasons, and they’ll never even think about betraying your trust.

Cheating Is About Them, Not You

To sum it up: cheating is never about you being “not good enough.” It’s about the other person’s insecurities, narcissism, or emotional immaturity. If you’ve been cheated on, remember it’s their problem, not yours. Don’t internalize their mess, because you deserve someone who will choose you, respect you, and love you with the kind of loyalty that’s rare in this chaotic world.

And if you’ve been the one cheating? Own it, fix it, and learn from it. Because in the end, the only thing worse than being cheated on is staying with someone who doesn’t value your worth.

Now go on, keep shining and remember: you’re too good for any of that mess. 

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