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Trust is one of those things we’re all told to value, cherish, and hold onto. We’re taught that trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship, whether it’s with a partner, family, friends, or even ourselves. But for some of us, trust doesn’t come naturally. It’s like a muscle we haven’t been able to strengthen, and for many reasons, it’s easier to guard our hearts than let others in.

If you’re someone who struggles with trust issues, it might feel like you’re the only one, or that it’s just too difficult to ever get over it. But trust issues aren’t something that just appear out of nowhere. They have a deep, often painful, root, and with time and understanding, they can be healed.

In this blog, I’ll share some personal insights and steps that have helped me (and many others) work on building trust again, starting with understanding the root cause, and moving through shadow work to heal from the inside out.

The Root of Trust Issues

It’s easy to point the finger at others when we feel like we can’t trust them, but trust issues often go deeper than just the people around us. Our trust issues are often born out of experiences from our past, painful experiences like betrayal, disappointment, or emotional neglect. Whether it’s a friend who lied to you, a partner who broke your heart, or a family member who let you down, these moments can leave a scar that sticks with you for years.

Sometimes, trust issues are tied to childhood. Perhaps trust wasn’t modeled for you, or maybe your caregivers didn’t show consistency or reliability. In those formative years, we learn how to interact with the world, and when trust is broken early on, it shapes our ability to connect with others later.

But, trust issues aren’t just about external events, they’re also about our internal beliefs. How we view ourselves and how much we believe we’re worthy of trust plays a huge role in how we trust others. If you’ve ever felt betrayed, you might have started thinking, “Maybe I’m not worthy of trust.” This internal narrative can be incredibly damaging and keep you stuck in patterns of fear and self-doubt.

Why Trust is So Hard to Build

Trust is fragile. It doesn’t take much for it to be shattered. And once it’s broken, it’s not easy to rebuild. It’s like a glass cup that’s been cracked, you might be able to tape it together, but the cracks will always be visible. So, when you’ve been hurt before, it makes sense that you’d be cautious about letting others in. The fear of being hurt again can make you close off your heart, even if you really want to trust.

The challenge comes when you realize that this fear of being hurt isn’t just affecting your relationship with others, it’s also affecting your relationship with yourself. Trust isn’t just about believing that someone else won’t hurt you; it’s about trusting your ability to make good decisions, to protect yourself when needed, and to believe in your own resilience.

If you’ve been burned before, it’s easy to put up walls. But building trust again is about learning to break those walls down, piece by piece. It’s about understanding that trust isn’t just about what others do, it’s about what you believe you can handle. It’s about reclaiming control over your own narrative and trusting that you can navigate life, no matter what comes your way.

Working on Your Trust Issues: Shadow Work

Once you realize that trust issues are deeply connected to past pain and beliefs about yourself, it’s time to do some shadow work. This is where the real healing happens, and it can be uncomfortable, but necessary for growth. Shadow work is about going deep into the parts of yourself that you try to avoid or suppress, the parts of you that carry old wounds, negative beliefs, and fears.

When we talk about the “shadow,” we’re referring to the unconscious or hidden parts of ourselves, the parts that influence our thoughts and behaviors without us even realizing it. Shadow work is about bringing these parts into the light, acknowledging them, and healing them so they no longer control your life.

In terms of trust issues, shadow work means examining the beliefs and patterns that have been formed over time, and questioning whether they are truly serving you. Here’s how to get started:

1. Identify the Root Causes

To begin with, reflect on your past. What experiences have shaped your view of trust? Were there moments of betrayal, lies, or abandonment that you can trace back to your trust issues? Think about the first time you felt let down or hurt. Understanding these roots is crucial because it allows you to separate past events from your present reality.

2. Acknowledge the Pain

One of the most important parts of healing is allowing yourself to feel the pain of past betrayals or disappointments. Trust issues often stem from deep emotional wounds. If you’ve been hurt in the past, it’s okay to grieve and process the emotions that come with it. It’s easy to try to push the hurt down or ignore it, but healing can’t happen until you acknowledge that pain and give yourself permission to feel it.

3. Examine Your Patterns

Look at your current relationships and how they reflect your trust issues. Do you tend to push people away before they can hurt you? Are you overly cautious, second-guessing everything someone does or says? Or do you find yourself trusting too easily, only to end up disappointed again? These patterns of behavior are signals that point back to unresolved trust issues.

Start examining these patterns with compassion, not judgment. This isn’t about blaming yourself, it’s about understanding why you react the way you do and what you can do to break free from those patterns.

4. Rebuild Trust Slowly

Trust is something that’s built slowly, not rushed. So, be patient with yourself. Start with small steps. Practice trusting your own judgment, if your intuition is telling you something feels off, listen to it. Trust that you can make decisions that protect your well-being. The more you trust yourself, the more you’ll feel equipped to trust others.

5. Embrace Patience and Self-Compassion

Healing takes time. When you’re working through trust issues, you might feel frustrated with how slow the process is, but remember: every small step forward is progress. Be kind to yourself. Don’t expect perfection, and don’t beat yourself up if you slip up along the way. Self-compassion is key in building trust, both with yourself and others.

Using Astrology to Make Shadow Work Personal to You

Shadow work is all about understanding the parts of yourself that need healing, and astrology can make that journey feel more personal. By looking at your birth chart, you can get insight into your unique strengths and challenges, your own cosmic blueprint. This can guide you in your healing process, especially when dealing with trust issues.

Astrology helps you understand who you are at your core. Your birth chart can show you how you deal with trust, emotions, and love. For example, your moon sign shows how you handle emotions and trust, your Mars placement reveals how you fight for trust, and Venus shows what kind of love and connection you need. By tapping into these energies, you can focus your shadow work in a way that fits your personality.

How to Use Astrology in Shadow Work

Moon Sign: Emotional Healing
Your moon sign reveals how you react emotionally. If you’ve been hurt, understanding your moon sign can show you how you process those emotions and help you heal from past wounds.

Mars: Fighting for Trust
Mars shows how you approach challenges. If you tend to shut down when trust is broken, your Mars placement can guide you in channeling that energy more constructively.

Venus: Love and Vulnerability
Venus tells you what you need in love. It can show where you’ve built walls around your heart and help you understand how to let down your guard.

The Houses: Where Trust Issues Show Up
Different houses in your chart represent different areas of life. If your trust issues stem from family, look at your 4th house. If they’re connected to relationships, your 7th house will be key.

I might be offering an astrology service soon, and I want to know what you think! It’s all about using astrology to help with shadow work, like having a personal guide to understand your trust issues and where to focus your healing. No more feeling lost, just real clarity on what’s holding you back and how to move forward.

Trusting Again: The Final Step

So, can you trust again? Absolutely. It won’t be a quick fix, and it’s not going to happen overnight, but with time, you can rebuild trust in yourself and others. Trusting again doesn’t mean forgetting the past or pretending the pain never happened. It’s about accepting the hurt, learning from it, and moving forward with more self-awareness and strength.

Trust is a journey. It’s like walking a tightrope, balancing between being cautious and allowing yourself to be open. It’s about knowing when to protect your heart and when it’s safe to let it open. It’s about learning to trust your own decisions and having faith that even if things don’t go as planned, you’ll have the strength to handle it.

Healing from trust issues isn’t about wiping away what’s been done. It’s about understanding the past, using it to grow, and becoming a stronger, more resilient version of yourself. The more you trust yourself, the more natural it becomes to trust others.

It’s a process, but you can do it. It all starts with one simple thing: believing that you are worthy of trust. And trust me when I say, you are.