mynamesearn

Of course, I compare myself. Everyone does. It’s not like we wake up every day feeling 100% confident, thinking we’re the best version of ourselves all the time. Some days, there’s this voice in our heads telling us we’re not enough, that we’re falling behind, that someone else is doing it better. And honestly? That’s normal.

But just because those thoughts show up doesn’t mean we have to listen to them. We’re all human. No matter how self-assured someone seems, everyone has moments of doubt. What matters is how we deal with it.

For me, I accept it. I don’t fight the thoughts or pretend they don’t exist. Instead, I remind myself that my journey is mine alone. Nobody else has walked in my shoes, and nobody else will ever experience life exactly as I do. And just because I haven’t achieved everything I want right now doesn’t mean I never will. It just means my time hasn’t come yet.

The biggest trap when comparing yourself to others is that you’re often comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel. Social media makes it even worse. We scroll through perfectly curated pictures, success stories, and people looking like they have it all together. But do they?

Nobody posts their struggles, their failures, or their bad days. You don’t see the hours of hard work, the moments of self-doubt, or the nights spent wondering if they’re good enough.

So when I catch myself thinking someone has it all figured out, I remind myself that I’m only seeing the surface. I don’t know their whole story. And just because someone else is succeeding doesn’t mean I’m failing. Life isn’t a race. There’s no deadline for happiness or success.

Sometimes, when we compare ourselves, we feel like we don’t fit in. Maybe we’re too loud, too ambitious, too emotional, or too different. But who decides what’s “too much”? Who made the rules for how we’re supposed to be?

I used to worry about being too much, too passionate, too intense, too everything. But now? I own it. If someone thinks I’m too much, then maybe I’m just not for them. And that’s okay.

You don’t have to shrink yourself to make others comfortable. You don’t have to dim your light just because someone else can’t handle your shine. The right people will love you for exactly who you are. And the ones who don’t? They were never meant for you anyway.

One of the best ways to stop comparing yourself is to focus on what you already have. Gratitude shifts your mindset from “I don’t have enough” to “I have so much to be thankful for.” Every day, take a moment to appreciate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Celebrate the progress you’ve made, rather than focusing on what you think is missing.

At the same time, be kind to yourself. You wouldn’t speak harshly to a friend, so why do it to yourself? Replace negative self-talk with words of encouragement. Remind yourself that growth takes time, and it’s okay to not have everything figured out right now. What matters most is that you’re trying, learning, and becoming the best version of yourself—on your own terms.

One thing that helped me stop comparing myself was unfollowing a lot of celebrities. Not all of them, of course, but let’s be real, why are we even comparing ourselves to people who have a completely different life? Celebrities are just humans with a lot of money, and sometimes, we forget that. We see their luxurious lifestyles, their perfect-looking photos, and their endless opportunities, and suddenly, our own lives feel small. But guess what? That’s not reality.

Some celebrities aren’t even great people. So why would I want to follow someone I wouldn’t even be friends with in real life? Not everyone, of course, but it’s a reminder that they’re not better than us, they’re just living a different experience. And at the end of the day, we don’t really know anything about their real lives, do we? So instead of obsessing over theirs, I focus on my own. Because that’s the only one that actually matters.

At the end of the day, comparison is just a distraction from your own progress. Whether it’s comparing yourself to someone on social media, a friend who seems ahead in life, or a celebrity who has a completely different reality, it’s all just noise. Instead of looking at what others have, focus on what you’re building. Your story is unfolding in its own unique way, and that’s something to be proud of.

And nobody else can do life exactly the way you do. Your energy, your dreams, your journey, they’re yours alone. There’s something powerful in owning that. Instead of focusing on what others have, put that energy into yourself. Invest in your own growth, chase your own goals, and appreciate what makes you unique.

It’s not always easy, and yeah, those comparison thoughts might creep back in from time to time. But when they do, remind yourself that you’re not in competition with anyone. The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

The next time you catch yourself comparing, take a step back. Remind yourself that the version of someone else you see isn’t the full picture. Life isn’t about keeping up with anyone else, it’s about growing into the best version of you. So unfollow the unrealistic, embrace your own pace, and keep shining in your own way. Because, trust me, you are already more than enough.