mynamesearn

I’m someone who always misses people because, duh, I’m a lover girl. But it’s not just that, I think I’m a nostalgic person in general. Not in a sad, miserable way, but in a “wow, that was a good time” kind of way. I just miss the feeling, you know? But lately, I’ve been wondering… maybe I don’t actually miss the people or the moments as much as I miss myself at that time. The way I felt. The way I saw the world. Like, damn, I was really radiant back then.

And you know what? That thought is kind of a relief. Because it means I don’t need to chase anything or anyone, I just need me. I was always the main character in my own movie, and I still am. Of course, I miss the people from those moments, but if I really think about it, what I miss the most is how they made me feel about myself. And that? That feeling? I can give it back to myself.

So maybe I don’t actually miss them in the way I thought. Maybe I just miss being that version of me. And if that’s the case, then all I have to do is bring her back. Otherwise, I’d be sad all the time, and that’s not what I’m here for. I wasn’t born to be miserable. I was born to be the happiest, shiniest, most sunshine version of myself. And guess what? I already am that person in someone’s mind.

So, back to the question: “What do you do when you miss someone?”

You don’t. You do nothing. Because whatever you miss, it’s not yours anymore. You miss it for a reason, and that reason might just be to remind you that the person you actually miss the most is you. And no one else can bring that version of you back, only you can.

Maybe that moment happened just to show you that you are capable of feeling that feeling, but this time, you can do it all over again by yourself.

You are in control of your own life. Anything outside of that? Not your business. Keep doing what you’re doing, align your life, and suddenly, you might realize, you don’t really miss anything. You just miss yourself. And that? That’s something you can get back.

But okay, let’s be real. Missing someone isn’t always that simple. Some days, it hits harder than others. You could be having the best day, and then, out of nowhere, a memory sneaks up on you and boom, your mood shifts. And that’s okay. You’re allowed to feel it. You’re allowed to sit with it for a moment. But don’t let it take over. Let it pass through like a wave, because that’s all it is, a passing moment. Not something you have to hold onto.

And while you’re at it, do things that bring you back to yourself. Romanticize your life again. Put on your favorite song and dance around your room like you own the world. Go sit at a cafe and sip your drink like you’re in a movie. Start a new hobby, switch up your routine, buy yourself flowers, whatever makes you feel like you again.

Because at the end of the day, missing someone is just a reminder of how much you’ve felt, how deeply you’ve lived, and how capable you are of experiencing joy again.

So when you miss someone, don’t get stuck in the past. Take it as a sign to pour that love back into yourself. Because the truth is, you are the constant in your own life. And as long as you have you, you have everything you need.