mynamesearn

Sometimes, I have to remind myself that good people still exist. Because let’s be real, the world feels like a constant cycle of bad news, bad people, and bad vibes. And when it comes to men, I have to remind myself even more. There are good men out there, sure, but damn, when you live in a world drowning in misogyny, it’s hard to believe sometimes.

Lately, I’ve been watching Jubilee debates about Men’s Rights Activists and Feminists, and let me tell you, I have never felt so much rage. But instead of acting on it in a destructive way, I write. Maybe men should take notes. Instead of projecting their anger onto women and the world, how about picking up a pen or, I don’t know, going to therapy?

One thing that really gets to me is how people still push the idea that a woman’s ultimate purpose is to be a mother. Like, hello? It’s 2025. Maybe I just want to be a woman. What’s wrong with that? We should be normalizing that women can just exist without needing to reproduce. If a woman wants to have kids, great. If she doesn’t, also great. But the fact that some women themselves have been brainwashed into thinking motherhood is a requirement? That’s the saddest part.

It’s wild how society still tries to shove the whole ‘feminine vs. masculine’ narrative down our throats. Newsflash: people are individuals. Some women make great leaders. Some men are amazing cooks. Some women are natural caregivers. Some men are.

It’s not about gender; it’s about personality, skill, and preference. But no, we’re still out here acting like men are incapable of looking after their own children, like taking care of your own kid is some heroic act. Are you not the parent too? Don’t you love your child? Or is it only a mother’s job to care?

And don’t even get me started on the whole ‘you’ll understand when you’re a mother’ argument. As if basic human care and empathy only come with childbirth. You don’t need to have kids to know how to take care of someone. And let’s be real, having kids can actually be one of the most selfish things people do.

Bringing a whole human into the world just so they can take care of you when you’re old? That’s not parenting; that’s making an investment. Kids don’t owe their parents anything. They didn’t ask to be born. That was your decision, so own it.

Another thing that’s been making my blood boil is this ‘male loneliness epidemic.’ Suddenly, it’s women’s fault that men are struggling? Be serious. Everybody gets rejected. Everybody experiences heartbreak.

But for some reason, when it happens to men, it’s suddenly an ‘epidemic.’ Women lower their standards so much it’s scary, and men still refuse to take accountability. Maybe, just maybe, instead of blaming women, try working on yourself first?

Maybe learn how to love yourself instead of demanding validation from women? Because the desperation is showing, and honestly, it’s terrifying how some men react when they don’t get what they want. The fact that women are literally dying because some men can’t handle rejection? That’s not an epidemic of loneliness, that’s an epidemic of entitlement.

And while we’re on the topic of entitlement, let’s talk about the way society still sees women as objects for male consumption. The way women are expected to be desirable, to be accommodating, to be whatever men want them to be but the moment a woman decides to put herself first, she’s labeled difficult, selfish, or unworthy. A man can prioritize his career, his peace, his passions, and that’s called ambition. But when a woman does it? She’s cold. She’s unfeminine. She’s unlovable. Why? Because she’s not bending over backward for a man?

It’s beyond exhausting. Every day, women navigate a world that wasn’t built for them, a world that actively works against them, a world that still doesn’t see them as full human beings with autonomy, desires, and the right to just exist without explanation. And yet, we keep going. We keep fighting. We keep living our lives on our terms, despite the noise, despite the expectations, despite the bullshit.

Yeah, like I said in the beginning, I have to remind myself that there are still good people. Because with everything happening, it’s easy to believe the world is just pure chaos. And I know, it’s hard when the world wasn’t built for us women. But I still believe in good things and good people because I’ve experienced them.

I’ve met kind men. I’ve seen women stand up for each other. I’ve felt love, support, and genuine care from people who remind me that not everyone is lost to the system. So, this is just a little reminder to myself: the world is messy, but there’s still light in it. And I will never stop believing in that.

Today is clearly a venting day for me, but honestly, I don’t care. These are the things we need to talk about. And if some people get mad, well, if the shoe fits. Women are tired. And the least the world can do is let us exist without questioning our every move.