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I was scrolling TikTok when I saw a Regina George edit. And my mind went like, okay she’s the mean girl, but she looks so damn confident. And honestly, I get why people want to be her, why people envy her, why people hate her, and also why people can’t stop watching her. She brings out something a lot of people don’t have, and that’s confidence. And confidence can scare people, it can inspire them, it can make them jealous, it can trigger them, it can do so many things all at once.

Of course, we all know she’s insecure deep down. Otherwise, she wouldn’t need to be this mean. But the way she puts on that confidence mask is so real that you forget for a second she’s actually insecure. You’re convinced that she actually believes she is untouchable. 

And there are so many scenes in Mean Girls that show how iconic Regina is. Like when her shirt got cut at the boobs, and instead of hiding, she just owned it and somehow made it a trend. People followed because she believed in herself so much that it made everyone else believe too. That’s confidence. Of course, she’s a mean girl, but you also have to admit, to be mean and full of yourself in that way, you need confidence. A lot of people don’t even have that.

If we are talking astrology, Regina George is the most Leo thing ever. Leo is one of my favorite signs. I know people love to call them dramatic, and yes they are, but I admire that. I love hanging out with Leos. You will never be bored. They are confident, inspiring, creative, and they bring so much life into the room. I love talking about business ideas with Leo because they will always hype you up, and then they will give you three new ideas on top of that. That’s so fun to me. It’s like they see your vision and then they push it even further. That’s Leo magic.

But okay, back to the point. The thing I really want to talk about today is confidence. I am also someone who is confident. And I say that with confidence. I am not always confident, nobody is, but most of the time I am. I think confidence is something everyone has inside them. It is not reserved for a special few. It just comes out more when you are with the right people, at the right time, in the right place. I think we all have confidence, but the question is how long and how well can you wear that confidence mask before it falls off.

Because the truth is, some days you will not feel it at all. Some days you will feel awkward, ugly, embarrassed, or like you are not enough. And that’s fine. That’s valid. You don’t have to be confident every single second. You can rest. And then you can pick it back up again when you are ready.

For me, that’s one of the reasons I am confident. Because I already accept that I will have those days where I embarrass myself, where I do something stupid, where I feel ugly or off. And instead of letting those moments destroy me, I just laugh and move on. Because what are people gonna do? Laugh and think I’m weird? I think everyone knows by now that I’m weird. And so what? I’m still here. So I’d rather enjoy myself while I can, you know?

One moment of cringe or embarrassment doesn’t make me less confident than yesterday. Actually, it makes me more confident. Because I went through it. Because I learned that people who truly love me will stick with me even through the ugly parts. And the people who leave? They leave for a reason. And that reason is simple: they are not my people. And that is okay. Not everyone needs to get me. Not everyone needs to accept me. That just clears space for the ones who really will.

I think that is also why I am so confident in my life. Because I know I am not for everyone, and that’s not a problem. It’s a blessing. It makes it easier to see who my people are. And when I am with the people who are really mine, that’s when I feel the most confident. We support each other, we hype each other up, and it is so lovely to feel that kind of energy.

So yeah, I guess that’s all I wanted to write about today. Confidence. I love confident people. They are fun, they are inspiring, they are magnetic. And I believe you are already more confident than you think. Even if you don’t feel like it right now, who cares? They can go wear beige. I’ll be over here living. Nobody’s opinion matters except yours. Confidence isn’t about never messing up or never being insecure. It’s about accepting all of that and still choosing to show up as yourself anyway. 

Have a lovely day, x