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I recently came across a video Let Them from Looking at Life with Dee on YouTube. If you’ve seen it, you probably know which one I’m talking about, the old lady reading a piece written by Cassie Phillips. The idea is simple yet powerful: Let them.

“If someone chooses something or someone over you, let them. If they judge or misunderstand you, let them. If they’re okay with never seeing you again, let them. If they show you who they truly are, rather than who you thought they were, let them. Let them call just to talk about ordinary things.

Let them lose you. Let them prove whether they are worthy of your time. Let them open up about anything and everything simply because it’s you they’re talking to. Let them feel safe with you. Let them love you, in whatever way they know how.”

It’s beautifully written, simple, and impactful. And it made me think about my own life. As much as I want to control things, I know I can’t. We’re all human, and sometimes, we just want everything to go our way. But life doesn’t work like that.

Since watching that video, I’ve felt inspired to write again. I had stopped for a while after my heartbreak, but this gave me the push I needed. Writing is one of the things I know how to do, one of the ways I deal with things.

Right now, I’m picking up the pieces of myself, figuring out how to move forward. But I know I won’t feel like this forever. I just have to find my way back to myself. That video reminded me that my version of let them is let go. Let go of control.

Let go of the need to make everything fit into a plan. I’m not God, or the universe, or whatever force you believe in. I don’t have that kind of power, and maybe we’re not supposed to. Life is meant to be lived, not controlled.

You can’t change people. You can’t hold on to everything forever. The only thing you truly have is yourself. You are the one constant in your own life, the person who’s been there from day one. You are the most important thing. And if you can’t accept that, if you can’t love yourself first, you’ll always be chasing something outside of you.

I know right now what I need to do in order to receive love the way I want is to work on myself. I have to be able to say out loud that I love myself so much. I love the way I overthink because it means I care deeply. I love the way I make people laugh, the way my mind works so fast that sometimes I surprise myself.

I love that I can’t decide what food I want to eat because it means I have choices. I love that I have big dreams, even though I haven’t achieved them yet, I love that for myself. I love how positive I am, even when life tests me. I love the parts of myself I’ve been afraid to admit.

I know I am lovable, even though my thoughts sometimes tell me otherwise. I try to love myself, not just for my strengths but for my weaknesses too. I love my crooked teeth, my short eyesight, and my frizzy hair. I love my crooked finger, the scar on my knee, and the way my brain moves a mile a minute. These things make me who I am, and who I am is worthy of love.

Maybe this heartbreak happened not to break me, but to push me toward where I’m supposed to be. To guide me back to myself, to remind me that before I can fully give love, I must first learn how to love myself. This is the lesson I needed to learn: love isn’t something you seek outside yourself.

It’s something you nurture within. And maybe that’s what this whole relationship was meant to teach me, how to heal the broken parts of me, how to put the pieces back together and become whole again.

Love is something I need to find within myself first, not something I should seek from others. Only when I can love myself fully will I be ready for the love that’s meant for me. The love that doesn’t need to be forced, the love that comes naturally, without expectations.

And I trust that when I’m ready, love will find me again, just as it will find you, too. If you’re reading this, remember that your journey is yours alone, and your heart is worthy of everything you desire. Trust that love will come when it’s meant to, and it will be even more beautiful because you found it after you found yourself.

So, let them. Let them be whoever they are. And you? Just be you. The things and people meant for you will always find their way back.

Trust that what’s truly yours will never need to be forced. The right people, the right opportunities, the right love, they will come and stay effortlessly. And if something or someone drifts away, let them. It’s not a loss; it’s making space for something better.

Life has a way of aligning things when we stop clinging and start flowing. So, breathe, let go, and believe that everything unfolding is leading you exactly where you’re meant to be.